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I'm my own worst enemy
You know a girl for awhile now. You talk with this girl and hang out for about a year or so. You two seem to have the same interests and get along quite well. By association of hanging out, your other friends were to meet this girl. Your best friend only knows her for a month and she ends up liking him and vice versa. While you sit near them, you watch as these two sit close and whipser to each other. How would you react to such a thing? Would you get angry? Would you not care? Or would you get sad?
This has happened to me. My best friend instantly got a girl to like him while she never even gave me a second thought. It made me feel worthless, like there was something was wrong with me. It's so weird how what a girl thinks (or what I think she thinks of me) of me will have 100x more impact than a guy. I was angry and sad at the same time. Angry at myself for being too much of an lame ass to even get a girls attention and sad about it altogehter. In a way, I will only blame myself and no one else.
But this story does have a happy ending. Feeling that staying quiet wouldn't help, I talked with them. Sure enough, my friend told me this "You are a great person. Why do you think I hang out with you? With her...it was never meant to be because people just don't work together when it comes to dating". The girl felt awful and said she never wanted to hurt me and reassured me the same thing. I told this stuff to my parents and brother and they told me the same thing. For some reason, hearing it from my friend and girl had more of an impact then my families words. My friend told me "If you don't want me to have anything to do with her, I will. Because our friendship means more than her". I was alright with it. Who am I to deny a man at a chance of happiness?
The point: do not blame yourself for everything that goes wrong in life.
And eating a whole container of Dips will make you sick.
This has happened to me. My best friend instantly got a girl to like him while she never even gave me a second thought. It made me feel worthless, like there was something was wrong with me. It's so weird how what a girl thinks (or what I think she thinks of me) of me will have 100x more impact than a guy. I was angry and sad at the same time. Angry at myself for being too much of an lame ass to even get a girls attention and sad about it altogehter. In a way, I will only blame myself and no one else.
But this story does have a happy ending. Feeling that staying quiet wouldn't help, I talked with them. Sure enough, my friend told me this "You are a great person. Why do you think I hang out with you? With her...it was never meant to be because people just don't work together when it comes to dating". The girl felt awful and said she never wanted to hurt me and reassured me the same thing. I told this stuff to my parents and brother and they told me the same thing. For some reason, hearing it from my friend and girl had more of an impact then my families words. My friend told me "If you don't want me to have anything to do with her, I will. Because our friendship means more than her". I was alright with it. Who am I to deny a man at a chance of happiness?
The point: do not blame yourself for everything that goes wrong in life.
And eating a whole container of Dips will make you sick.
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I'm sure you are great.
Anyway, I'm sure it'll be cool man, I makes me feel 10x better when I know where I stand with people, its the not-knowning that kills me. I think if the girl was to tell me I was a great person, even though I'd be hurt because I liked her, I'd take so much from those words.
Good luck though bro, I'm sure if your that great, someone will come 'round who see's it more than anyone else.
When they meet you, pretty quick they put you in either box. Once you are in the friend box, it is almost impossible to get out of the box and into the relationship box.
You might think (if you were being logical) that a good way to get into a relationship with a particular person you like is to become a real good friend to them, and then take it to the next level once you've gotten to know them . But this isn't the way it works (IMHO).
From my experience, a woman decides whether or not you are a person she could date within the first hour of hanging out with you (and sometimes within the first minute -- seriousely.) You can't switch boxes. You have to make it clear from the get-go you aren't only interested in a woman as a friend if it is someone you want to be with .
Switching boxes is incredibly hard . (Even both ways: say a woman meets you and would like to date you , but you don't feel that way, it would be difficult for her to just want to hang with you as a friend.)
Remember : Girls think way differently than guys do. We just have waaaayy different brains. So never judge a woman's behavior by what you might think you'd do in her situation, because women just think waaaaayyyyyy too differently for us to really figure out logically.
Just my 2 cents. Good luck!
Wow, that could have gone bad but you dealt with it much better than I would've.